One problem in our sexual relationships today is that many of us feel that the only route is to pretend that we are not only equal, but also the same and to some extent even non-sexual. This false illusion keeps us ignorant, immature, unwhole, superficial and unready for living a life of true love human and divine. It has created a huge loss for both genders and has limited passion and connection in sexual love. Men and womens intimate relationships are becoming more and more antagonistic and troubled. We walk on eggshells, avoiding sensitive topics and each other. Our unionsformal or informalare ever shorter and more fragile. Even one-night stands often dont last the night. The trouble between men and women is not a matter of miscommunication or misunderstanding and thus cannot be resolved by practicing good communication skills or learning conflict resolution. The source of the strife runs deeper and requires a fundamental change in the way we date, mate and relate. The obscuring of our natural masculine and feminine differences has enormous consequences on a variety of levels. Men who have a natural abundance of masculine energies refrain from fully animating their masculinity because theyve been made to believe that masculinity is about harming or violating others. Many men have become very passive, particularly those men who confuse "spineless" with "sensitive". They stop engaging and challenging their outer worlds and instead go too far into their inner worlds and don't come out. Many women today are wondering where are all the "real men" have gone. And women who have a natural abundance of feminine energy have adopted a false masculine shell, believing that it's the only way to be powerful. Many women today gone beyond assertive to becoming aggressive and eventually hostile. The horrible irony is that when it comes to dating and mating, men want women who are 'real" women and women want men who are "real" men, and test each other's masculine and feminine confidence to the limit... Halfway through a date, most women can see the little clouds of sadness, repressed anger and resentment, self-doubt and self-pity regularly fluffing off a man who lacks confidence in his masculinity and sexuality. The woman who has a natural abundance of feminine essence will quickly lose trust in a man who is always ambivalent, undirected and afraid to take risks - a man who is always waiting for her to take the lead most of the time. Her feminine essence wants to feel his masculine energy, direction, presence, and passion which he never delivers, so she despises and disrespects him. On the other hand if her own natural feminine sexual essence is covered by her masculine energy, she will over and over attract a partner who puts out more of his feminine energy and needs more masculine energy in his life. So he is attracted to hers.. Men with a more natural masculine essence are put off by a woman who usually wants to take the lead and is always trying to manipulate and control him - women who are needy, compliant, selfish, manipulative and emotionally closed off. His masculine essence wants to feel her feminine essence that values and appreciates his direction, presence, and passion which she is not capable of doing, so he avoids her altogether or emotionally "shuts" himself off especially if he is getting some groin work out. On the other hand if his own natural masculine sexual essence is covered by his feminine energy, he will over and over attract a partner who puts out more of her masculine energy and needs more feminine energy in her life. So she is attracted to his.. So, if you keep attracting the "wrong" kind of women or men all the time, ask yourself, "what sexual energy am I putting out there that attracts these people"? If your masculine and feminine sexual essence is well balanced, you will attract, enjoy and even prefer a partner with an equally balanced sexual essence. For instance, you will enjoy following your partner's strong lead half the time and you will equally enjoy providing a strong lead for your partner to follow half the time. You will show concern for each other's feelings with one partner listening and and validating the other one time, and the other partner will do the same at another time. This is the kind of relationship that will inspire love, passion, and gratitude. This is the kind of relationship that will keep the chemistry and passion between two people of the opposite sex going not just all night long, but for a life time. |
