What Personal Magnetism Can Do for You Some people get noticed, get listened to, get promoted, get funded, and receive help from strangers when lost without even asking. Many others who work equally hard, are equally talented, and have comparable physical appearances struggle to achieve similar outcomes. Some may question and yet failed to find the answer. Some may start to feel disheartened. The difference between these two groups of people usually lies in one having sufficient personal magnetism to draw attention to themselves. The term personal magnetism, as used here, refers to a captivating, inspiring personality that includes charm and charismatic qualities. Personal magnetism is a fuzzy concept, but its lack of scientific specificity does not take away from its importance for career and personal life. Many other fuzzy concepts, such as love, loyalty, and leadership, also have a big impact on ones life. Signs That Your Personal Magnetism Needs Strengthening Let's assume that you are hardworking and technically competent, make a satisfactory appearance, and have at least average political astuteness. Insufficient personal magnetism could be your problem if you have had several or more of the following experiences: 1. Your career has been on a plateau for a long time in terms of new assignments and/or promotions. 2. You have been a downsizing victim at two or more firms. 3. People rarely ask your opinion during a meeting. 4. You were absent from a meeting and nobody commented later that you were missed. 5. Almost nobody asks you to become a member of his or her network. 6. When assigned to a new team or task force, you are rarely nominated to be the leader. 7. Your jokes and attempts at witty comment rarely receive much of a reaction from others. 8. Co-workers seldom mention your name during meetings or other forums. 9. Statements you make are rarely quoted by co-workers or superiors. 10. You frequently make a statement or volunteer your opinion during a meeting and you barely receive a reaction. 11. A co-worker receives a compliment for wearing a certain suit. Yet when you wore almost the identical suit, nobody complimented you. 12. People who report to you rarely act inspired. 13. People who report to you will go directly to your boss when facing a major problem. 14. The number of times you telephone friends and acquaintances far exceeds the number of times they call you. 15. You rarely receive e-mail messages from friends and acquaintances unless it is in response to your message. 16. While you were attending school, you were almost never nominated to be the captain of a team or club. 17. When between relationships, you have to work extra hard to find a date because others seldom take the initiative to ask you. 18. When in a supermarket, nobody ever turns to you and says, ''Here, why don't you go ahead of me. You are probably in more of a rush than I am." 19. Strangers rarely smile at you. 20. When in a public building or airport, a stranger rarely opens the door for you. 21. When at a social gathering of mixed ages, little children seldom talk to you or stand close by you. 22. When at a social gathering, you usually have to initiate conversations because few people start talking to you spontaneously. 23. You receive very few compliments either on or off the job. 24. People tend to yawn frequently in face-to-face interactions with you. 25. You cannot recall anyone ever saying that you are dynamic or that you have a sparkling personality. Aaron Loh http://www.skyquestcom.com/wealth_learning |
