There is not a single woman on the face of the earth, with a healthy appetite for companionship, that doesn't want to explore ways in which to invite men into their life for purposes of developing a loving relationship. Relationships are a curious thing in that we often find ourselves becoming someone other than ourselves in trying to manage the relationship. This internal game of musical hats so to speak, has most women suffering from an identity crisis without them even knowing it. They often react and perform inappropriately simply because they picked up the wrong hat at the wrong time. This having to wear different hats has many consumed in their own mind chatter and ridiculous reasoning that is largely influenced by all of the other hat wearing relationship authorities out there. So whats a girl to do to get clear about this? How is she supposed to know how to act in order to achieve her desired outcome. Well, I have a few suggestions:

First get very clear (even in the smallest of circumstances) about how you would like the moment to unfold. For example, you and your companion are out to lunch and you feel the need to discuss an upcoming event that you would like for him to attend with you. Lets say he has a history of resisting your suggestions in that he enjoys initiating your entertainment itinerary. Given his somewhat predictable tendency you need to acknowledge that disappointment is probable if you attempt this. This acknowledgement will lessen the sigh that is likely to occur. However, dont stop trying. Just try something different. Rather than stating you would like to go to this event and requesting he accompany you, ASK QUESTIONS only? No statements. NO responses with the word I in it. For example, here is what I call the Respectful Scenario:

You: Do you like watching dance?
Him: Yeah. I guess. Depends on the kind of dance.
You: What about ballet?
Him: Its a little fem but I guess its okay.
You: What about belly dancing?
Him: Yeah I guess its kind of cool.
You: Would you like to see me belly dance?
Him: Sure.
You: What about that kind of dancing where the Guys do all this athletic improvisational movement with garbage can lids and rhythm?
Him: Yeah, that sounds pretty neat.
You: If you had tickets, would you go?
Him: I guess.
You: Surprise! Heres two tickets. WE have a date.

Typical Scenario:
You: Honey, I got 2 tickets to this dance thing called STOMP and its for Friday night. Itll be a date.
Him: Im not going to a dance thing, thats lame. I already made plans for us to go to the movies.
You: We always do what you want. What about what I want?
Him: Lets dont start that. Remember the chick flick I took you to?
You: That was four months ago. Weve been doing the you show ever since.
AND SO IT GOES

This conversation continues to de-evolve into the depths of sleeping in separate bedrooms and no one goes anywhere come Friday night.

Review as indicated in the Respectful Scenario:
1. Ask Questions?
2. Omit the word I
3. Inject flirtatious humor
4. Offer the gift of his approval

Now some may argue that this feels manipulative but for some men that are a little more machismo, this works well and they actually appreciate the respectful approach. Each one of us is unique and possesses a positive or negative polarity. Often this fluctuates periodically throughout the day but in some men the negative polarity is more pronounced. These men often attract women with a higher degree of positivity. Its the law of nature and attraction. Given this, its really quite easy and even natural for a positive women to enlist this approach with a negative manand succeed.

In fact, Positive Women OWN MORE HATS!

Zannah Hackett

Zannah Hackett provides answers for singles in search of the perfect mate and those teachers, coaches and experts valuing evolutionary relationship knowledge. She shares a unique body of information of a 3000 year old hidden body of wisdom that she has tailored expressly for this audience. It has most assuredly produced new hope for mankind. Zannah has spent nine years mastering this incredible language of love for purposes of bringing men and women together for all the right reasons and cultivating healthy family and work environments. Zannah's clientele has been diverse over the years and the focus of her efforts has largely been towards targeting those dynamics that most effect men and women coming to terms with the realization that our presence is not an accident but instead a part of something much bigger. Single men and women as well as professionals in the relationship industry have attended her sessions and seminars and continue to seek her pure, honest and objective perception of human nature. She teaches others how to become their own matchmaker in a variety of settings and how to use some very old secret techniques no longer acknowledged in today?s crazy world of human analysis. Zannah has successfully used the wisdom to meet the man of her dreams, raise her four children and incorporate the knowledge into her great life. Now she shares this insight in her new book, "The Ancient Wisdom of Matchmaking".

Zannah a preceptor in the field of self-discovery and has been training men and women in body, mind and spiritual fitness for over 30 years worldwide. Her experience includes degrees from Arizona State, having been a professional modern and ballet repertoire dancer, Area Training Director for The Fitness Institute, Director of Health Services Development for Samaritan Hospitals, Personal Trainer for the famous Golden Door Fitness Resort, columnist, author, television/radio talk show hostess, and a non-denominational minister ordained by The ADL, Alliance of Divine Love.